why to bother!..

We always care about someone else, think about someone else or how we perceive ourselves 

around them. Then their judgements regarding us, whether positive or negative, we accept it as it is. 

Day by day on the basis of that particular judgement, unknowingly and unintentionally, changes us 

into a comic book character whom everyone likes in the story because they do what they're told. And for us they are just the character which are made for us in short they are just our judgment. 

Most importantly, the positive judgements becomes our holy grace as they boost our egos, but that 

happiness too is only short lived. 

Therefore, the dark clouds of pessimist thinking takes form of over-thought questions like:

"Is there anyone who likes me?"

"Why am I like this?"

"Should I change myself?"

Then these things reside into our minds, rooted so deep that we start struggling with ourselves, not 

knowing what to do, how to change the perspective of others. To this point, our minds have become 

this cage with iron-bars so thick that we can see ourselves seeking for even a speckle of a ray of light. 

In other words, it just leaves us struggling, struggling and struggling…

But why struggle and bother when we need to ask ourselves, "I like myself or not", because this is 

not the way to live a happy and content life. First, we need acceptance of us from ourselves.

Second, we need to know that it's a ME BEFORE YOU world where the stakes of selfishness is so high that if 

'one' starts to care about 'another' then the 'one' becomes 'another's' slave without even knowing. 

Third, there is no point in expecting the same amount of emotional healing from the others. 

when we 

set our own standards about ourselves are so low.

We need to understand that those people who are judging they are just potraying there character in front you Or others, by there judgment regarding you Or anybody else people will judge that person " who is judging" on the basis of his judgment because everybody here just judge one another , so just remember this if somebody is judging us there is anybody else who is judging that person this whole thing is just so toxic that nobody can make there way out by doing the same. 

If you believe that you only live once and when God created us, he gave us everything. Hence, it is 

our duty to live it to the fullest. I know this is cliché, but isn't every realistic thing like that.

If you 

agree then, please realise that there are many like you but there is only one of you. Start taking 

control and don't be afraid of tell  those whose are forcing their opinions on you.

Love yourself. Give yourself time to know yourself. Know that acceptance is more important than there judgement. 

We are so much more than this!. 

Just give it a try because change always starts with you. 

 

Pallavi singh .