Family.

There are some relationships that we don’t choose for ourselves. 

“THOSE ARE THE GIFTS FOR US BY THE GOD!”

Family may be defined as a group of people who are related to each other, but it is much more than that. It’s a meaningful connection, a life-long experience. It’s an incredible and unbreakable bond which includes us. It’s the roof of comfort in the world of uncertainty. It’s a shoulder to lean on. It’s the source of inspiration, love and support. It’s necessary as we always need someone or something and when we can’t get it, we turn to God. When our prayers are left unheard we resort to blame the heavens for not gracing us with our wants in the first place. But how is it possible to ask for something that is already with us? A lot people think of their families as shackles, holding them back to progress. This tends to happen a lot. The reason being the untruthfulness and lack of faith in kinship. We often neglect this blessing of an opportunity of being able to share a home with our loved ones, because we get so engrossed in our virtual concerns out of the house. These concerns turn our family into our personal punching bags (sometimes literally) to release the pent-up stress.  The issue doesn’t just end there. It can also drive us towards the unrealistic loneliness that we feel, time-to-time. Family is what we want sooner or later we will get to realise this thing  and it is what we need. But we don’t see the value of it as it is. Because as soon as we start to puberty we get obsessed with the term “INDEPENDENCE”. At this age we don’t even know the term’s proper meaning but we still yearn for it. It is our perspective towards independence that’s driving us away from home because we only see the positive aspects of it and not the struggles to maintain and earn those positive aspects. That’s when the phrases, like:

“Give me some space.”

” I’m independent enough.” 

“I’m not here to obey.” 

are added to our glorious book of senseless thinking. We can’t just say these words to everyone, when they didn’t even do anything. And why would we say it to them? Is it because they’re looking out for us? Or the fact that they see the ulterior motive behind our persuasion? 

‘If we think that they are not given us the value that we think we deserve, then we seriously need to introspect.’

And if we are asking for it in the wrong manner then why and what are we expecting from them. Value is not something which we can take from them by fighting for it or by being stubborn. It comes from the heart, it is not a right that we can demand like it’s some democracy. They put everything on line just for us, they sacrifice everything to tend our needs, they dream just for us and in return, all they get is hurt and blame for inefficiency and inability to achieve something. It’s high time that we realise our mistakes and treat them as a lesson to avoid them in the future. Because the family, is a compass which guides us through the darkness of our lows, whom we celebrate our highs with, they easily get lost in the crowd with little to no appreciation.

Because those who don’t know their responsibilities and importance of parents in one’s life, can’t really achieve or be content with what they have. Just remember if we are not realising our responsibilities then we are no one to expect anything from anyone. If we are not bonded or ready to obey them to think about their happiness, their relief then we are no better than a stranger to our family. And then our parents are also not bonded toward us. 

Call it a clan, tribe, network or family. Regardless of whatever or whoever you are, you need one. 

“The family is a test of freedom, because the family is the only thing that the free man makes for himself and by himself.”

The informality of family life is a blessing that allows us all to become our best while looking our worst. Realise it in the time being. Don’t dare to insult them with your harsh words and spoiled actions. They deserve every fibre of happiness residing in this world. “Rejoice with your family in the beautiful land of life”. Don’t make them regret having you. We will feel proud of ourselves when our parents are proud of us. They treat us the best, they accept us as we are. They never told us to change. They deserve the reward.

PALLAVI SINGH